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      Help me, Help her. (Day 03)

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      on Aug 17, 2010

      My name is Derek and I am trying (desperately) to find a way to help my Mother out.

      My Mother lives in a tin box two townships away from myself and the rest of her family. She has lived out there alone and by herself since her Divorce/My dad passed away.

      She is sincerely one of the nicest, most kind hearted and loving people I have ever known. She's the woman everyone knew in school and called "Mom". She used to make fudge, brownies and many other sweets and would stick them on top of her garabage bin, or in her mailbox...every, single year as treats at Christmas for the people who took care of her trash/mail. She'd do the same thing each year and bring in treats for the kids at school. She never missed a holiday.

      Unfortunately for her, she was not blessed with the kids she deserved; she was given my brother and I instead. You know the kind of kids I mean; we ran up credit cards, call from jail or the hospital, steal from her and our dad. Worthless children, to be fair. But she loved us as if we were the best kids in the world...what a waste of her kindness that could've been meant for someone else instead.

      My Mother has Hep-C, she lives on Social Security that she receives from my dad's death. He was old school, so that meant she wasn't allowed to work. (Or have friends, a life, or anything else at all for that matter.)

      Through the years I have pulled my head out of my ass and have tried to become the best person I could. I've managed to pay off every, last cent I owed her and even now I pay for her groceries...when I can.

      My younger brother...well, he hasn't paid back a thing. Things are strained on my side of the family and he has a wife and kids now, so I get stuck in the middle of alot of stress quite frequently. I figure it's the least I deserve so, so be it.

      I found out about a year ago, that my Mom doesn't make enough on SS to cover her trailer, utilities and food costs. My Mother that was always so upfront and honest with me, had been deceiving me. I got her downtown and on the Food Assistance Program. They gave her just $80.00/mo. in order to survivie.

      At about that time, she got a "raise" on her Social Security: $2.50/mo.; Food Assistance declared she made to much and took her assistance away from her, less than a month after she received it.

      I just found out (that she was hiding from me) that she's been in constant pain and she's wetting herself every time she stands up. She has Hep-C and has had previous surgeries on her bladder. The Urologist (the only one her medicaid will cover) refuses to see her until November. Apparently there are enough people to fill every day until then that are worse off than her...apparently.

      Up until 4 months ago, I was covering her Food and helping her with her bills. Then my idiot brother decided to get a DUI and almost lose his family. We work for the same company and since he cannot drive the work vehicles anymore until we find out what happens at trial, that means either *I* drive him, or he loses his job and his family is on the street.

      The downside of this is that the owner refuses to pay me a cent to help him and refuses to lay me off so I can claim Unemployment. So my brother pays me what he can, after he pays the owner for the loan for legal help, his bills, his daugthers' needs, etc.

      That leaves me $50 a week to live on and still try to help my Mother which, you may have guessed, is close to impossible.

      I have seriously racked my brain and haven't been able to come up with a way to help my Mother out, so that's how I've wound up here.

      I wasn't a good child, I was worse as a teenager and then as a young adult. But I've tried to turn myself around and make up for it, because my Mother deserves nothing less than to have a child she can be proud of. A child that won't turn their back on her. A son that she knows loves her and would do anything he could to make sure she was fine.

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      So that brings me here...to try and find help from strangers who don't know me, who don't know my Mother, who shouldn't even care less what happens to someone they don't know. I would *never* ask for help for myself because I feel I deserve everything that comes to me in this life based on how I was for so long.

      But my Mother, she doesn't deserve anything like this. And I won't let things get worse even if I have to beg for her to get help.

      When it comes to her, my pride means nothing. Who can have pride when they can't take care of the person who gave them life?

      So then I ask this, to any and all strangers of the world: Can...will someone help me save my Mother? It can be a dollar or even a dime, anything that I can use to help her get medical treatment and to help not lose her trailer. What would you ask of me in exchange? I won't ask to get something for nothing. I'm not good at many things, but I will do what I can to save my Mother.

      She's my Mother. To do less would be criminal.

      If you're willing to help me in any way that you can, you may send it to my address below. I will provide receipts as proof positive of helping her, so you know that your money actually went to where you expected it to go.

      Thank you for taking time out of your day to read this. And God Bless.

      - D.

      Derek*Ovenshire
      164 *Humphrey* *Drive*
      Battle*Creek, Michigan
      49014

      If you would like a Fax, Work of Home number to go with this, please feel free to contact me.

      I will type this out once every day, until I find a way to help my Mother live!

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        Korri
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        2. Korri posted on Jan 4, 2012
        Hi Derek. Sorry to bother you, I see this was posted about a year and a half ago. I was wondering if you would tell me if posting this, actually did help your mom. I'm finding myself in a similar situation, about to be evicted, with nowhere to turn. Not a dime in my pocket. I don't have any family to ask for help. No "wonderful" son, like yourself, willing to take the steps you took to help your mom. Can you tell me how to go about making a posting such as yours, asking for help from the public. I don't know my way around a computer to well. I'm 56, and about to be put out in the street. I'm scared. I hope this finds its way to you, and that you have the compassion to respond. I also hope that you were able to find the help for your mother back when you needed it. Yours sincerely, CC.
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        1. Schmidty posted on Aug 21, 2010

        You won't have to type it out, copy and paste, but that isn't what I'm contacting you about. On my blog http://Schmidty.Aidpage.com you find several listing that my help you and there are articles within the blog that may.

        One of the listings is about free legal help.Next time you might think of letting your brother get his own butt out of trouble, you didn't make him drink. That's the way our family handled it, you do it, you get yourself out of it. If he thinks you'll bail him out all the time, he won't have a reason to stop.

        If you need more help for your mothers health care, has she signed up for Medicare/Medicais If your mother has a disability she may be able to draw SSI and SSDI.

        Is your mother renting or buying the trailer.Is it in an old part of town, urban, rural? The reason I'm asking is , There are certain programs that fit in certain catagories.

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